Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a technique often used with couples who are in conflict and are having trouble communicating effectively. What often happens is the couple has lost their closeness and are protesting the loss of connection, which is expressed in fighting and bickering. Both want to be close again but are not effectively letting their partner know “I miss you, I want to connect”.
This is the time of year when we plant a garden, clean out a closet, swap sweaters for tank tops, and get children ready for summer programs. We get busy gearing up for great things ahead: going to the beach for lunch, riding bikes, spending time outdoors, and enjoying longer days.
After a long cold winter, the end of the school year may come with exhaustion, impatience, and overwhelm with the million tasks that come with the change of seasons. Amidst all this busyness it’s easy to forget that our primary relationship needs a little extra TLC now and again. It may be hard to commit to a time dedicated solely to nurturing the love that makes all else make sense.
Could your relationship use a little spring cleaning? A little airing out?